I’m going to share with you an important tip – a tip that will probably lead you to adopt the baby of your dreams much quicker.
But before I do, if you are just starting out on your adoption journey, let me ask you a question…
What does your baby look like?
No, I’m serious.
What does your baby look like?
As Jack Canfield says, visualization – seeing the goal as already complete in your mind’s eye – is a core technique used by the world’s most successful people. Visualization is effective because it harnesses the power of our subconscious mind.
When we visualize goals as complete, it creates a conflict in our subconscious mind between what we are visualizing and what we currently have. Our minds are hard-wired to resolve such conflicts by working to create a current reality that matches the one we have envisioned.
Visualization is a powerful tool that can be used in any area of our lives. So, let’s really get clear on who this baby is that is entering your life. Let’s do a visualization.
In fact, I am going to take it one step further. Instead of just focusing on the baby, let’s think about the entire process.
Sit in a quiet area where you won’t be disturbed, cross-legged or feet firmly planted on the ground and sitting up straight.
Now, let’s imagine…you have your baby in your arms. Walk me through how it happened.
Who is the expectant mother you’ve been matched with?
What does she look like?
What does that first conversation sound like? What does the first meeting look like?
How did the birth go? Where are you during this time? What are you wearing?
You see your baby for the first time – what does he/she look like…smell like…feel like…sound like?
How do you feel?
When was the baby first put into your arms? What was that like? Did you cry? Were you in awe? Did you experience nervous laughter?
Who else is with you?
What emotions are you feeling?
How do the relinquishments go? How does that feel for you?
Your first night alone with your baby – what’s that like?
How is this new baby going to change your life?
I think you get the point. The more detailed you are, the better.
Jack Canfield goes on to explain that research has revealed that images or scenes that are accompanied by intense emotion will stay locked in our memory forever. The more passion, excitement, and energy we muster during visualization, the more powerful the results will be.
Your subconscious will become engaged in a process that transforms you forever. The process is invisible and doesn’t take a long time. It just happens over time, as long as you put in the time to visualize and affirm, practice your techniques, surround yourself with positive people, read uplifting books and listen to audio programs that flood your mind with positive, life-affirming messages.
Daily rituals help to establish the right balance between thinking about the future and living in the moment. Start by picking a time during which you’ll review your goals and visualize your success. Ideally, do this twice a day – first thing in the morning and right before you go to bed. The process typically will take 10 minutes or less.
For greatest effect, read your goals or affirmations out loud. After each one, close your eyes and create the visual image of the completed goal in your mind.
To multiply the effects, add sound, smells, and tastes. Most importantly, add the emotions and bodily sensations you would be feeling if you had already achieved your goal.
This is a powerful visualization technique.
But what about all that negative self-talk, doubt, and fear that creep in? It’s normal!
Matt Mayberry states, When you think of a big goal or dream that you want to achieve, it’s natural to think of all of the obstacles that will come your way. The problem is far too often we allow these obstacles to become so big in our minds that it inhibits us from moving forward.
Rather than creating larger-than-life barriers in your mind and dwelling on everything that will hold you back, envision yourself victorious
The truth is, if you can’t picture yourself achieving a goal, chances are you won’t. The more vivid you can get, the better it will work for you.
I love what David Van Rooy, a VP at Walmart says…
There is a reason that the rearview mirror is smaller than the windshield: it’s more important to know what lies ahead. Because we know the past, we dwell on it and use it to make predictions. This is useful to a point, but it can also constrain our thinking to what we already know.
What do you say? Are you willing to commit to this practice every day, twice a day until your baby is in your arms? Or, maybe even beyond?
I’ve used visualization and affirmations a lot in my life. In fact, it helped me to start my adoption business!
And one more piece of advice by Jack Canfield – Once you have visualized each goal as complete, it’s time to release. Let go of your goals, and spend the rest of your day being in the present moment.
Here’s to creating your dreams into reality! I hope to be part of that process with you.